As human beings, for some reason, we often fall into a pattern of negative thinking, because we find it easier in moments of despair. It’s easy to keep putting ourselves down once we have started.
When I talk about changing your negative thoughts into positive, it might seem like I make it the easiest thing in the world, but in all honesty it is hard, and I do know how hard it is. If you have been trying, but struggling, I applaud you for your hard work! If you have been trying, but feel like you’re going nowhere, or maybe further down the negative path, there’s only one thing you need to focus on now, before you keep focusing on the positive thinking.
You need to accept yourself for who you are. You need to get to know yourself. You need to start digging through your past and your thought patterns. Why do you think the way you think? What thoughts do you have on yourself? Why?
When we grow up we are imprinted with different ideas on how we should be as people and what we need to do to live up to other people’s expectations. All we want is to be loved and accepted, and in order to be just that, we create something inside of ourselves that will criticise and limit us. We do this to protect ourselves, without knowing that it actually only harms us. But hey, it’s better to be hurt by yourself than rejected by someone else, right?
Actually, no. The only person in your life that you really need to get acceptance from is yourself. You need to love and accept yourself for who you are, in order to live life to the fullest. In order for you to enjoy everything the world has to offer, you need to truly believe that you deserve it. And you must love yourself in order to find true love with someone else.
It is hard to change your negative thinking to positive, but anyone can do it. The road will be harder and longer for some compared to others, but anyone can do it.
No matter where you are in life, we can all benefit from a deep dig into ourselves. Start today by trying to notice your negative pattern. When are you hard on yourself, in what situations? What do you pick the most on, and why do you think that is?
It is a matter of finding yourself, realising your path and history and trying to untie that knot you tied inside yourself a long time ago. It will take time and a lot of effort, but it will be worth it in the end!
Good luck. You can do it. I believe in you.
PS. I read an interesting book on this subject not that long ago. It’s called Life’s Golden Ticket and is written by Brendon Burchard. You should read it. It gives you a great perspective and insight on how we build those expectations for ourselves, and how we are the only ones to maintain them, when we really should tear them down.