In our society, there’s so much focus on good feelings, and that you need to feel good all the time. And if you don’t feel good, god forbid you’d talk about it…!
Look, I’m all for feeling good – that’s what we all want, isn’t it? – but every now and then we don’t, and that’s OK too. The “bad” feelings are there too, and there’s no use in trying to push them away or hide them, because then they’re only going to get bigger and stronger.
Feelings are feelings and they are all OK feelings. We all have them, all the different positive and negative ones, but for some reason it’s not OK to talk about the negative ones. Somehow, along the way, it has become something almost taboo talking about how we truly feel, no matter how that is. It seems like it’s not OK to say that you’re not OK.
But why is that?
In my opinion, I think it’s because:
- People, for some reason, get uncomfortable with talking about bad feelings, and;
- We live in a society built on prestige.
This causes people to either not want to talk about how they feel – because they don’t want to make people uncomfortable and because they don’t want to seem less than everyone else – so they pack it up inside, or/until they completely explode. The latter will happen eventually, one way or another.
My guess is that all of this is mostly sparked by all the prestige that surround us. We’re supposed to be constantly happy, earn lots of money and have a perfect family.
But the truth of the matter is that reality doesn’t quite look like that. Lots of people feel horrible on the inside, and we’re making it worse by just sweeping it under the rug. Bad feelings are often caused by stress (caused by the pressure of prestige) and stress comes from a place I think we’re all familiar with.
The whole reason I’m writing this blog, paying it forward to everyone out there, is because I want everyone to feel better. I want a world that’s a happy place to live. Now, I know it’s not possible to make everyone happy, but if I can change the life of one single person, I think I have done what I set out to do.
What I want to say with this blog post, is that all feelings are OK. All feelings are welcome. They are there for a reason, and there’s no use in trying to push them away, because they will stay until you deal with them. So if you’re feeling a bit under the weather – deal with it. Find the root issue, and work on fixing it. It’s worth it, isn’t it, if it can make you happy?