Is there another way?



Since birth we’re told we need to live life a certain way. We should walk, talk and teeth by this and that age. We need to be able to write our names and draw our family at another age. Then we need to attend kindergarten, preschool, primary school and high school. Within these years we’re expected to make a certain amount of friends, find a hobby/sport to pursue, preferrably make straight A’s, start dating, etc.




And as we graduate high school, we need to know what university to apply to, what career we want to pursue, have life planned out as to when to get married and have children, buy a house, retire…

It goes on and on, like a spinning clockwork.

But so often do I ask myself:

Is there another way of doing life?

I guess we don’t have to follow society’s expectations. Most of us end up not doing that anyway. We don’t have to live life the way “everyone else” does it. We are not our parents, nor our school mates.

I live life the way it suits me (and always have, I think). I didn’t sign up for a programme at uni after high school like most of my classmates – I travelled instead (and took a few classes here and there, just for fun). And every single moment of my life I have pursued a goal, a dream. And I have been (and am) perfectly happy!

I’m definitely not saying that one way is the right way, or that any other way than my way is wrong. You see, what’s right for me is probably not right for you…

So, of course there is another way of living life. In fact, there are billions of ways!
Your mission is to find out which way works for you, in order for you to make the most out of the short amount of time you have in this life.
And remember what I told you the other day? You can’t do life wrong.

Tell me, what’s your way of life?

What have you done that was out of the ordinary, and perhaps “frowned upon” by society?

Oh, and one more thing! Don’t be afraid to be you.

Endless love,



9 thoughts on “Is there another way?

  1. Johanna.. another great write up from you…
    While theoretically I agree with you but it’s a very difficult -not impossible, to follow.
    Sometimes I feel that in this business of living, somewhere ‘you ‘ are lost, your wishes, likes and expectations are all taken for granted. And this is a biggest problem.
    You are a son, father, husband, grand daughter/son, daughter, mom etc. with so many expectations attached. if you put yourself first, it becomes a problem. This is a Classic problem in traditional societies that still exist in Asia.

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    1. I definitely see what you mean, Arv, and understand the challenges you’re talking about. But it shouldn’t be about choosing one or the other, but rather to find a balance that works for you, between the responsibilities as an adult of various sorts (father, son, husband, etc.) and your dreams and wishes. Your responsibilities don’t mean that you have to give up on your dreams, and vice versa, but perhaps adjust them to suit the life you have and want 🙂

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  2. Great post, very relatable. I agree with you about societies expectations. I just like to go with the flow and let life lead me and enjoy everything that comes my way.

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  3. I followed the plan, and found I wasn’t a big fan of it. I had the husband, the 4 bedroom colonial home, the good paying and satisfying job, and a white picket fence (literally). I kept feeling like I should be happy, but my marriage was a mess and my bipolar was out of whack living in a dysfunctional relationship. While dating my husband, now ex, I thought his irish red headed freckle faced cousins with pig tails were adorable. I will never forget that moment when one ran by me and I said I would love to have a red headed freckle faced little girl one day. I have black hair and I just never thought that would happen. Well God heard me; that is exactly what I got and I am so grateful. Her red hair is fiery just like her, and her freckles are beautiful and unique just like her soul. I sometimes wonder what my life would be like if I didn’t go the traditional route, but there’s no point in living in the past of what might have been. I am where I am supposed to be.

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