Have you ever heard these excuses before?:
“I don’t have enough money.”
“I don’t have enough time.”
“It’s too hard.”
“It’s not my fault.”
“I would do it – if only…”
Maybe you even recognize yourself in them?
That’s totally okay, we all do it – we all make excuses in order to not have to deal with what we really should be dealing with, and in order to go easy on ourselves.
But the truth of the matter is that you can make as many excuses as you want, but it’s not going to change anything. Your life and how you live it is still going to be your responsibility, no matter how much you blame others or outer circumstances.
I wrote a Seed for TheSeeds4Life that was posted on Friday and I was surprised to see how some people commented with excuses as to why they couldn’t live life to the fullest. At first I got a bit upset because these people hadn’t understood my message, and I thought that maybe I just didn’t express myself well enough. But as I realized that so many other people had understood my message, and resonated with it, I realized that these other people were just making excuses.
And of course, as always, that had me thinking.
Why do we make excuses, when surely, deep down, we know the truth?
I mean, I make excuses all the time, and catch myself in the act of doing it, too. It annoys me every time, because I think I should know better. But maybe it goes deeper than that. Maybe making excuses is part of our nature, or maybe we’ve been taught from the get-go to do so. Maybe it’s a type of defense mechanism, just because it’s sometimes kind of hard to face reality and own up to it?
What do you think? Why do we make excuses that don’t serve us and our lives? And what’s the best way to change this behaviour?